Let me tell you right up front where I’m going with this postulation: you can tell the age of a man by the ring he wears just about as easily as you can tell the age of a tree by the number of rings it has! There you have it – Read on if you are so inclined…
It all begins to feel a little bit like speed dating; almost as if they are picking the right relationship for a one night stand. What happened to meaningful relationships? Are ideals like garotas de programa manaus, courtship, seduction and commitment a thing of the past? Is it really just all about price? Where is the loyalty in that? Has cheap become a deity to be worshiped?
This is thus why most average looking guys fail to get past the first stage of being acquainted with women well enough until looks do not play a dominant factor anymore in female attraction. So for most of us, the irony is that we just can’t simply get past that “first impression” with women if we aren’t that good looking!
Does your ex still have love in her heart for you? If the answer is yes, then you’ve got a very good chance of winning her back. Most women who break up with a guy still harbor intense feelings for him, but choose to bury those feelings as a way of moving on. Your goal right now is to find those emotions, play upon them, and draw them back to the surface. You do this by pushing on the exact emotional hot buttons that will cause your ex girlfriend to miss you, want you, and need you again.
On the other hand, guys tend to continue to place a lot of emphasis on how a woman looks even after they get to know her well. Guys like to be with hot chicks, as simple as that. Women are much more likely to date a not so good looking guy if she already knows him well and loves his personality. But you can rarely find good looking guys dating not so attractive women unless they want something else from them.
Break it down into small segments…after determining where I want my business to go over the next year (month, quarter, etc.), I break down the larger goals into quarterly objectives and then into monthly objectives, etc. This takes the “big picture” and makes it more manageable as I can get my arm around quarterly and monthly (and then weekly) objectives much easier than I can the entire year, and it won’t seem as daunting if you plan to take smaller steps toward a larger goal.
This basically translates to seeing something likable and deciding early on that that is what you want. Though this concept applies to purchasing sneakers, this definitely does not apply to the seduction of women.
Give her time to heal, then ask her to lunch and be her friend. No romance at first, because that is how to get your girlfriend back. Let it be on her terms, but with a different you, because if you really love her, you will be what she wants you to be.